THERAPY FOR ANXIETY, BURNOUT, GRIEF, AND LOSS IN SAN FRANCISCO BAY AREA
You've done everything right, and somehow the life you were waiting for hasn't arrived.
…what happens after “doing everything right”?
You've been managing so much for so long. You stopped noticing how it’s taking your calm, joy, and sense of belonging.
You learned early that you had to deserve safety, love, even the sense that you were good enough. Good enough was never enough, so you learned to become outstanding instead. Even then, others did not always reciprocate. Sometimes they simply took you for granted. That strategy worked. It still works. What it has cost you is harder to see: the growing distance between what you show and what is actually happening underneath. It may appear as anxiety that will not let up, burnout, a loss you cannot name, or grief that does not resolve. Most people do not come to me because they are in crisis. They come because the cost of holding everything together has become too difficult to ignore. Some have endured it for so long that, by the time they reach out, it already feels unbearable.
· A creative high-achiever who grew up too fast - someone who’s been seen as competent but inwardly felt shut down and emotionally alone, or not been accepted as emotional or vulnerable.
· An accomplished woman in midlife who has spent years giving more than she gets back, and she is no longer willing to accept being needed as a substitute for being valued.
· An immigrant or child of immigrants who learned to watch themselves in every room: what to say, how to say it, and when to stay quiet. They adapted so completely that the cost remained invisible until adapting itself stopped working.
Hi, I’m OLGA.
I help thoughtful people stop surviving on autopilot and start living as their full selves.
We’ll gradually process the memories your body still carries, using EMDR. Think of it as decluttering your nervous system. Courage begins the moment we slow down and really listen inside.
We’ll explore how long-standing relationship patterns keep showing up today, using psychodynamic insight. The past loves reruns, but we can change the script, and if love is a verb, we can write a fresh one.
We’ll weave evidence-based, grounded practices into our work, so change feels tangible in everyday life. Progress shouldn’t live only on the therapy couch; real-life changes matter the most.
Specializing in helping people who can explain what is happening, but cannot make it stop hurting.
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The way you’ve been living no longer works, whether that shows up as constant anxiety, burnout from doing too much, a life that still looks right but no longer feels like your own, or circling the same thoughts without relief. We'll figure out what all this effort has actually been protecting you from. Then we’ll decide what to keep, what to let go of, and what to build next.
We’ll combine depth-oriented work with real practical change. Learn more.
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You may care deeply about someone and still feel increasingly alone with them. The same argument returns, small moments carry lots of weight, you find yourself explaining, accommodating, or withdrawing. We'll figure out what you've been doing to preserve the relationship, and what it's been costing you. The goal is a closeness you don't have to work this hard to keep.
Depending on your needs, we’ll draw from either relational psychodynamic therapy or EMDR , or both to work with the injuries and your real needs. You can learn to speak more clearly, set limits earlier, repair what can be repaired, and stay close without losing yourself.Learn more.
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You may be grieving someone who died. Grief can also follow a relationship that ended or changed, estrangement, the loss of health or stability, or the life you thought you would have by now. You may still be functioning while grief shows up as anger, anxiety, numbness, or regret. The hardest part is often that it keeps returning, even when you understand why.
We reflect on the stories you’ve lived, and make sense of what still feels unresolved. We’ll work with the regret, longing, and difficult question of what your life can become from here. I use relational and integrative therapy, with EMDR when a loss remains emotionally or physically present long after the event itself. Learn more.
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Trauma can leave you on edge, emotionally shut down, ashamed of your own reactions, or doing the same thing again even though you want it to stop. You may have used substances or unhealthy activities to sleep, calm down, or keep functioning, and started to notice that the relief now costs more. We'll work with what's still driving this from inside, and what it would take to feel steady in your body and daily life. The goal is a life that feels bigger than trauma.
I use relational therapy and EMDR, and I also can help you look honestly at your relationship with substances, without treating it as a moral failure.Learn more.
How it works
Ready to see what life could feel like when you’re fully in it?
Curious about working together?
Click below to schedule a free 15-minute consultation. This is a low-pressure space where you can ask questions, share a bit about what’s bringing you here, and get a feel for how I work.
We’ll talk about what’s most important to you right now, whether I might be a good fit, and what the first steps could look like if you decide to move forward.